Chinese courtship dating
Westerners try not to say those words until they are sure of that feeling. But even telling someone “I like you” can be tricky.
Saying those words makes the thing real and in the open.
The use of kokuhaku is also a bit of a culture shock for Westerners.I’m going to start out with a disclaimer: Every person- and consequently every situation- is different. I am going off of my experience and some discussions with my Japanese friends and friends who have lengthy experience with the culture.I’m sure people can find exceptions to what I am putting forth as general rules. Additionally, I am a man, so all of my understanding comes from the perspective of a man.If the other returns those feelings, then they become boyfriend and girlfriend.The relationship then proceeds as relationships between boyfriends and girlfriends do. At the point of kokuhaku is where we consider two people to begin dating.